A Note For People Who Hates Responsibilities



I consider myself not the type of person who decides to get twitched in unending responsibilities. I love life to the point I wanted to experience everything before I set myself tied up with wife and kids. It was for me the end of everything that’s fun. Then thoughts started to change while I was sitting in the park one night. Unconsciously, I was left staring at a couple with two kids playing roller blades. The family I guess was Indian based on my poor acknowledgement on races. The father seems to be from office as he was wearing a blue, not so classy, long sleeves and black slacks. The mother was wearing a casual shirt jogging pedals and rubber shoes while roaming around the vicinity trying to get some sweat and exercise. They may be the typical type of family who gets enough just to sustain family needs and not within the elite margins of people.

Then I wonder….. Life outside of their family is a big world but inside their father’s head is that the whole world is what he’s seeing right at the moment. I know based on what his stance and movements shows that he is kinda tired from work but what keeps him bringing his family to the park for a leisure and bonding is somewhat more important than diverting his tiredness to the bed.

This is life. In a family is a precious life. The father’s sight on how his son run and smile is life. His sight on how he sees his wife smiling while seeing their kids happy is life. His joy inside his heart that makes him inhale deep and grin is life. 10 years ago these people are not existingly known to each other and they never knew that. They never knew that someday they’re going to get settled happy, intact and emotionally abundant with each other but that’s what life gave. Life is what ahead of us….. What’s behind us was memories and treasures. That father will continuously work his head everyday knowing that at the end of the day he has a family to spare time and be complete with.

Then I realized people are designed to fit in a family. Responsibilities being hard is just a reflection on how precious a family is. Women dreams to get married and walk through the isle with assurance that someone will take care of them the rest of their lives. It’s their legacy while Men’s legacy is to get somebody grow through his own blood, character and parenting. That’s how human race’s legacy work. People love and people dies. The most valuable aspect a person can achieve is the fulfillment that somehow when they leave human body they are assured that somebody was once beneficiary of their existence. When someone leave life they give life…..


5 Traits of the Successful Author

This Will Keep Me Going!

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I am off to THRILLERFEST in NYC, and I’m sure it will be thrilling….bada bump *snare*. Today, I want to talk about some fundamentals. We can have all the talent in the world, but without these five ingredients, we will be hard-pressed to ever reach our dreams.


This should be a, “Yeah, no duh,” but, sadly, it isn’t. I meet a lot of people who say they want to be a professional author, but the second they face any opposition or criticism they give up. Here’s the thing:

If we truly LOVE it, we won’t give up.

One of my favorite stories is about a music master who traveled village to village in search of proteges to train. A young boy who played the violin practiced extra hard in anticipation of being chosen. On the given day, he played for the master and, at the end, the master said, “No…

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Real Men Keep Their Issues Sealed Up.


Men are entirely different in women, no questions about that.They are most of the time accused of being insensible and stubborn on the way they react silent on conflicting issues. While most of the women are explosive, who shouts their thoughts out loud and wouldn’t waste a single second on expressing their feelings, men are implosive, keeping their acts uptight and digest emotions.

I know that you might think that this blog contains nothing but thoughts of defamation against woman but its not. This will explain why men have certain behaviors and what thoughts are running through their minds.


People have certain stigmas that produce certain anger. Its just that men have more wider margins for anger but after they’ll pass that margin it has a catalyst effect on shooting up on rage. If your husband/partner would tell you in a normal conversation that they are not jealous of somebody, they are 75% lying. They are imaginatively thinking of bad things other people would take advantage of. Its just that men smooth out the jealous feelings because they know that it wouldn’t do good without proper base on what to be jealous of. But once proven with valid reasons to be jealous of, men become explosive and hard to control. They have a longer span on forgetting than women. They keep it in their hearts sealed with thoughts but wouldn’t talk about it until such time and situation would let that flow out.


This is probably the great unique feature that man does. They Invest part of their selves trying to look strong, good, and unaffected with shield covering their real insights and emotions on a present issue they are dealing with. Self image is a great necessity for them. It’s like fixing their hair with a stroke of the hand in a middle of an commotion, seems to be stable, moves flawless then answer to a the question “I’m fine”, leaves the scene then slam the car’s door real hard. They value what others would think of them and what would they say about them. Would they look stupid, would they look like a girl, a child or immature. They understand not only the issues itself but the whole circle of the people that looks upon the issue.


Men fear as if it looks like they don’t. Did you know that men have more fear of loosing than women? Certainly. It is just that they don’t express it. They hide behind their manly, masculine image. It’s not that they are afraid. Fear and being afraid are different. They just knew that what they want is more important than their fears. They keep this fear as an invincible factor believing that showing it means being vulnerable and might bring to what outcome they don’t want.


Decision plays a major role in men. It’s like they know what they want but would think of thousand times before deciding for it. People who had a rough time with their “identity vs role confusion” stage are more likely to have difficulties and slower patterns of decision. Men took more angle and perspective in deciding with comparison with women. They’ll think of the effect on their partner, parents, siblings, boss, workmates, society, friends and social networking connections. A fact that men have lesser status updates in their social networking sites just reveals that they, as much as possible, keep everything private while women have different views with privacy. Men Have the thinking of what decisions they are going to make has no turning back. When women ask men to do something or to commit to something, women tends to get hanging answers and uncertainty with a very pleasant speech delivery. If they asked men to go for lunch over their family’s Sunday barbecue, Men would say “It’ll be lovely and that would be fun and I’ll try to come”. It’s not always because they are busy but its because they’ll think it first for a dozen times before they’ll commit for a decision they can’t afford to miss.