Run For Your Life!



Life is a CHASE. A never ending run.

People tend to be different with each other in every distinct and specific ways. But the common denominator we have as a human being is a PURSUIT.  We persons, all run for one thing called Happiness. A heightened emotion,  a state of mind, we pursue them. Temporary yet we fight for it.

God gave us emotions, which I think included in the biggest questions of my life. Why do God gave that to human beings. I know it may sound so absurd but it should be the one to blame because of inequality in life, greed, suffering and hardships. You know why? Because we fight for it everyday. We struggle to better ourselves. We get a job because we have so many wants in life that makes us feel happy, we eat delicious foods to make savor ourselves, we play to win in order for us to feel winners, we do social networking because it gives us sense of belonging in the community and so many things that we do is rooted from our emotions. When we get angry, we feel some sort of bad feeling inside us and we do everything just to hype up our emotions. Emotion is a BITCH! She’s spoiled. Imagine a world without it. No feelings getting involved thus no one’s gonna hurt. Have you ever had to think of it?

I’ve seen three people that is very close to my life that died in front of my eyes. My Grandfather who had a serious lung disease, died after my father and him reconciled from a long gap they had. My Grandmother who had fought cancer for 5 years died inside my own room. And the most tragic that I had experienced was my youngest brother. At the age of nearly 2 years old, he passed away a month before my grandmother died. He inherited a disease from our family, Leukemia. It was very brutal for me at my age back then when I see these kinds of events but nevertheless, it opened my eyes. I felt devastated but what bothers me most is the fact that people reacts about other people no matter what and in any kinds of situations and to think of it, it was deeply associated with emotions.

Maybe God gave us that not to see how bad it does. But because when we feel bad we appreciate the good feeling. He gave it for us to feel, to appreciate, to be Human. God created the world in twins. He made pros and cons, positives and negatives, good and bad. He made light out of darkness for us to see how important light is. He portrayed Right out of Wrong for us to see the differences and results. He made Life out of Death so that we feel limited time for ourselves. All are with two sided coins.

All of us is going to die, and if you know you are dying, you will know how to live. You’ll see life by the other side of it’s coin and start to scrape off unnecessary things that you do. Then that’s how we should live. My point is, emotions are the one that sets us out from non-living things but don’t let it control the boat. It’s enough that we feel the gush of the water pounding, the calmness of the lake, the thrilling waves, but don’t let it affect which direction we are going to. Don’t base your decisions from temporary feelings.

We might chase life but it’s not what we chase more important, it is the whole story of your chase that matters….


A Note For People Who Hates Responsibilities



I consider myself not the type of person who decides to get twitched in unending responsibilities. I love life to the point I wanted to experience everything before I set myself tied up with wife and kids. It was for me the end of everything that’s fun. Then thoughts started to change while I was sitting in the park one night. Unconsciously, I was left staring at a couple with two kids playing roller blades. The family I guess was Indian based on my poor acknowledgement on races. The father seems to be from office as he was wearing a blue, not so classy, long sleeves and black slacks. The mother was wearing a casual shirt jogging pedals and rubber shoes while roaming around the vicinity trying to get some sweat and exercise. They may be the typical type of family who gets enough just to sustain family needs and not within the elite margins of people.

Then I wonder….. Life outside of their family is a big world but inside their father’s head is that the whole world is what he’s seeing right at the moment. I know based on what his stance and movements shows that he is kinda tired from work but what keeps him bringing his family to the park for a leisure and bonding is somewhat more important than diverting his tiredness to the bed.

This is life. In a family is a precious life. The father’s sight on how his son run and smile is life. His sight on how he sees his wife smiling while seeing their kids happy is life. His joy inside his heart that makes him inhale deep and grin is life. 10 years ago these people are not existingly known to each other and they never knew that. They never knew that someday they’re going to get settled happy, intact and emotionally abundant with each other but that’s what life gave. Life is what ahead of us….. What’s behind us was memories and treasures. That father will continuously work his head everyday knowing that at the end of the day he has a family to spare time and be complete with.

Then I realized people are designed to fit in a family. Responsibilities being hard is just a reflection on how precious a family is. Women dreams to get married and walk through the isle with assurance that someone will take care of them the rest of their lives. It’s their legacy while Men’s legacy is to get somebody grow through his own blood, character and parenting. That’s how human race’s legacy work. People love and people dies. The most valuable aspect a person can achieve is the fulfillment that somehow when they leave human body they are assured that somebody was once beneficiary of their existence. When someone leave life they give life…..

5 Traits of the Successful Author

This Will Keep Me Going!

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I am off to THRILLERFEST in NYC, and I’m sure it will be thrilling….bada bump *snare*. Today, I want to talk about some fundamentals. We can have all the talent in the world, but without these five ingredients, we will be hard-pressed to ever reach our dreams.


This should be a, “Yeah, no duh,” but, sadly, it isn’t. I meet a lot of people who say they want to be a professional author, but the second they face any opposition or criticism they give up. Here’s the thing:

If we truly LOVE it, we won’t give up.

One of my favorite stories is about a music master who traveled village to village in search of proteges to train. A young boy who played the violin practiced extra hard in anticipation of being chosen. On the given day, he played for the master and, at the end, the master said, “No…

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Real Men Keep Their Issues Sealed Up.


Men are entirely different in women, no questions about that.They are most of the time accused of being insensible and stubborn on the way they react silent on conflicting issues. While most of the women are explosive, who shouts their thoughts out loud and wouldn’t waste a single second on expressing their feelings, men are implosive, keeping their acts uptight and digest emotions.

I know that you might think that this blog contains nothing but thoughts of defamation against woman but its not. This will explain why men have certain behaviors and what thoughts are running through their minds.


People have certain stigmas that produce certain anger. Its just that men have more wider margins for anger but after they’ll pass that margin it has a catalyst effect on shooting up on rage. If your husband/partner would tell you in a normal conversation that they are not jealous of somebody, they are 75% lying. They are imaginatively thinking of bad things other people would take advantage of. Its just that men smooth out the jealous feelings because they know that it wouldn’t do good without proper base on what to be jealous of. But once proven with valid reasons to be jealous of, men become explosive and hard to control. They have a longer span on forgetting than women. They keep it in their hearts sealed with thoughts but wouldn’t talk about it until such time and situation would let that flow out.


This is probably the great unique feature that man does. They Invest part of their selves trying to look strong, good, and unaffected with shield covering their real insights and emotions on a present issue they are dealing with. Self image is a great necessity for them. It’s like fixing their hair with a stroke of the hand in a middle of an commotion, seems to be stable, moves flawless then answer to a the question “I’m fine”, leaves the scene then slam the car’s door real hard. They value what others would think of them and what would they say about them. Would they look stupid, would they look like a girl, a child or immature. They understand not only the issues itself but the whole circle of the people that looks upon the issue.


Men fear as if it looks like they don’t. Did you know that men have more fear of loosing than women? Certainly. It is just that they don’t express it. They hide behind their manly, masculine image. It’s not that they are afraid. Fear and being afraid are different. They just knew that what they want is more important than their fears. They keep this fear as an invincible factor believing that showing it means being vulnerable and might bring to what outcome they don’t want.


Decision plays a major role in men. It’s like they know what they want but would think of thousand times before deciding for it. People who had a rough time with their “identity vs role confusion” stage are more likely to have difficulties and slower patterns of decision. Men took more angle and perspective in deciding with comparison with women. They’ll think of the effect on their partner, parents, siblings, boss, workmates, society, friends and social networking connections. A fact that men have lesser status updates in their social networking sites just reveals that they, as much as possible, keep everything private while women have different views with privacy. Men Have the thinking of what decisions they are going to make has no turning back. When women ask men to do something or to commit to something, women tends to get hanging answers and uncertainty with a very pleasant speech delivery. If they asked men to go for lunch over their family’s Sunday barbecue, Men would say “It’ll be lovely and that would be fun and I’ll try to come”. It’s not always because they are busy but its because they’ll think it first for a dozen times before they’ll commit for a decision they can’t afford to miss.

To Kill A Mockingbird




It has been a while since I last wrote a blog. I think it was more than a week. Well, that’s because I paused writing because I was deeply indulged in reading this book. 

This book was really amazing to the point I don’t want to finish it in a rush. The Story was really quite short but has vivid and compact ideas. It showed a good presentation of cultural indifference and portrayed a empathy over black brothers. 

To kill a mockingbird is a sin, a mockingbird who only does sing their hearts out everyday and inflicts no harm to crops, houses and people. 

This is a great book indeed. An instrument of cultural savior. An eye for the two dimensional world.

Wonderful People I Know #1


        I will talk about a mother. A mother who spent half of her life away from her own country. Who finds Greener Pasteur not for her own lusts and wants but for the people who were depending on  her shoulder since I can still remember. She who has to be a provider not only for finances of an
extended family she have but also for the strength and be a prototype of hard work for the whole clan. Even though she became literally and metaphorically far from her children, she manages years of caring and being a mother for them. In spite of the fact that she missed the chance of being an on stage mother, watch her daughter first un-cribbed walk, heal her son’s wound from first fist fight, giving advices from a daughter’s fear from first menstruation, she still possessed this pristine motherly love not only for the offspring she have but for everybody. She had been a shoulder to cry on for almost everybody that she knows. She knew people’s ins and outs based on her precise instincts. She knows when you carry the world and she knows thousands of ways to approach you. When she holds you, she’s not actually holding, she’s hugging and pampering you.


     I will talk about a woman. A woman who possess the clear idea of being brave while being righteous. She who stands for an outreach voice whose role is a wimp’s refuge. Merely a lawyer you can consult, a psychologist you can spend time talking on queries, a counselor you can speak about problems, a fashion analyst you can ask whether you’re wearing the right shirt or a chef you can share ideas about types of ingredients you should use. She is a “One woman knows it all”. When she enters into something, she will learn and progress to it for sure. Only few people do it that way and she’s one. When you are looking for a mediocre person, she’s not the woman to describe. She’s extraordinary. Most of the people that I know who possess less same with her character would be as histrionic as a star. She’s not. She still remains on low ground and act like most of the people do, normal, but deep inside the picture of her everyday scenes, you’ll see and appreciate what precious grace God had given her.


      I will talk about a girl. A girl who enjoys a whole day watching love themed television series, noontime shows , comedy performances and talk shows. A freak shopper who enjoys collecting signature items only on it’s marked down prices. A girl who is consciously screening on her diet while resisting the urge on savory foods. She’s a typical “young heart, old in experience” person who constantly loves everything and everybody spontaneously. She enjoys having a long talk and a good companion. The meaningful one. She fell in love with wrong persons dozen times. She cries and gets hurt most of the time but she never fails to forgive. More so, you will be the person to be puzzled why does she keep on forgiving people who had done overly repeated mistakes unto her. But then you’ll realize things when you know her. She’s too good person to keep anger instilled in her system for a long period of time. She can’t resist the anger stage. She’s too fun for that. There will always be an outlet of the siege inside her. That’s how she does it. That’s her secret not to get old easily. The happy girl always remains inside her big heart and it never leaves.

          I had talked about a mother, a woman and a girl. The three facets that lives in my Auntie Anne’s persona. I was amazed by who she is and a proud nephew indeed. She appreciates being appreciated and a cost of writing something for her is a credit given for her on behalf of the people whom she once touched their lives.